I 2009, under en workshop, mødte jeg mine endnu ufødte oldebørn. De sad i en halvcirkel omkring mig og spurgte med alvorlig bekymring: “Da du forstod, hvor alvorlig situationen var – hvad gjorde DU så?” Jeg kan stadig se deres ansigter. Jeg møder deres blik. Mine hænder blev fugtige, og min hals tørrede ud. Det […]
I’ve just returned from a week in Lebanon, and something in me feels full in a way that is still settling. It might be the warmth and kindness that met me in so many conversations. It might be the way people generously shared stories about the many cultures woven into Middle Eastern life. It might
A Week in Lebanon — What Stayed With Me Læs videre
What’s in it for me? Me-me-me. This approach is yesterday. I get nausea when I meet it. Self-interest is not our only driver. Humans have a deeply held desire to contribute. Are you in doubt? What’s more fun, to cook when you are home alone or when there are people to share your meal with?
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Coach your teenager The teenage years can feel like a shocking transformation – a turning inside out of the mind and soul that makes the person unrecognizable from the child they once were, both to themselves and those around them. There are uncontrollable mood swings, identity crises, and the hunger for social recognition. There may
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We get irritated, angry, offended. We lose focus, get bored, withdraw, or intervene. Do you recognize how other peoples’ behaviors sometimes trigger reactions in you? Many of us have low tolerance for certain emotions: when someone – could be our child, partner, parent, colleague, or client – expresses this emotion verbally or through tone of
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I’ve written about it before: Shame. Shame as a shared human experience of alarmed aloneness, of exclusion. Shame eats souls The evolutionary purpose of shame is to have people behave within the frames of the tribe. Shame has also been used as a tool in the hands of those in power: Shame on you if
Exclusion from within Læs videre
Det er der sikkert mange, der vil efterspørge, for skam er så ætsende en følelse, at kunne den fjernes operativt, ville der være kø ved klinikken. Indgrebet findes, og det endda uden skalpel og narkose. Tilmed noget du selv kan udføre, når du vil, sammen med en, du har tillid til. Til gengæld tager det
Hjernekirurgi mod skam? Læs videre
Har du det godt med dine nærmeste og i andre vigtige relationer? Hvis dit svar er ja, så hurra! Så føler du dig sikkert tit lykkelig, for relationer er afgørende for vores livskvalitet. Vores relationer former vores hjerne. Især er vores relation til vores vigtigste omsorgsperson som spædbørn – som regel mor – afgørende for
Træk nye kabler i dit nervesystem Læs videre
“Hun tror hun kan bestemme det hele.” “Ja, hun er altid optaget af at redde sin egen røv.” Kender du tanker eller ytringer som disse? Vores hjerne har en indbygget tendens til at skabe mening i det, vi oplever, så vi hurtigere kan orientere os og finde passende svar på det, vi oplever. Derfor fortolker
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As a Harry Potter-lover, many unforgettable scenes from the J.K.Rowlings books and movies based on them are still alive in me. The one that beats them all is the moment in The Prisoner From Azkaban where Harry, with the aid of a time-reversing gadget, watches himself on the edge of being consumed by a dementor.
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