In 2009, during a workshop, I met my unborn great-grandchildren. They sat in a semicircle around me and asked with grave concern: “When you realized how serious the situation was – what did YOU do?” I can still see their faces. I meet their gazes. My hands became clammy and my throat dried out. It […]
I've just returned from a week in Lebanon, and something in me feels full in a way that is still settling. It might be the warmth and kindness that met me in so many conversations. It might be the way people generously shared stories about the many cultures woven into Middle Eastern life. It might
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What's in it for me? Me-me-me. This approach is yesterday. I get nausea when I meet it. Self-interest is not our only driver. Humans have a deeply held desire to contribute. Are you in doubt? What's more fun, to cook when you are home alone or when there are people to share your meal with?
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Coach your teenager The teenage years can feel like a shocking transformation – a turning inside out of the mind and soul that makes the person unrecognizable from the child they once were, both to themselves and those around them. There are uncontrollable mood swings, identity crises, and the hunger for social recognition. There may
We get irritated, angry, offended. We lose focus, get bored, withdraw, or intervene. Do you recognize how other people's behaviors sometimes trigger reactions in you? Many of us have low tolerance for certain emotions: when someone – could be our child, partner, parent, colleague, or client – expresses this emotion verbally or through tone of
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There are probably many who will ask for it, because shame is such a corrosive feeling that if it could be removed surgically, there would be a queue at the clinic. The procedure exists, and even without a scalpel and anesthesia. What's more, it's something you can do yourself, whenever you want, together with someone you trust. On the other hand, it takes
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“She thinks she can control everything.” “Yes, she’s always busy saving her own ass.” Do you know thoughts or statements like these? Our brain has a built-in tendency to create meaning in what we experience, so that we can orient ourselves more quickly and find appropriate responses to what we experience. Therefore, we interpret
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Cells, organs, individuals, communities, ecosystems, the biosphere. Clusters of units, each with its own function. You and I are separate systems, yet connected. None of us could live on our own, just as no cell in a body could function separately from the others. How do you treat your body? How do we treat our living earth? There are
Shock and loss, how to talk about it without retraumatizing With the war in Ukraine now in its 26th day, a lot has suddenly changed for me. As for many others. And you? What I usually take for granted, I've begun to see through the eyes of displaced people. Wow – we
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Would you like to have more efficient workflows between colleagues? To strengthen the common understanding of procedures and agreements? And at the same time gain a better sense of what is happening for those you work with? That's three things. How could it be done? The answer is: Recapitulation. Recapitulation is one
